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Sunday, 29 January 2017

Show a Little Self-Care

I'm no self-care guru. In fact, I'm the complete opposite and I'm not too good at doing things for myself. Looking after myself doesn't come naturally for me and getting out of a self-destructive past is not always an easy thing to do.

It's not that I don't want to do nice things for myself, it's actually because I'm lazy and my problem is making time to care for my body.

  • It took me two months to get around to painting my nails.
  • I moisturise my body maybe once a week if my room is warm enough and I'm in no rush.
  • My leg hair pokes out the bottom of my jeans too many times to count.
  • I struggle with sleeping too long.
  • I have to hide those designer bags under my eyes (I know, I know, like you haven't heard that one before.) Honestly, once my makeup comes off I look like death.
  • I'm 21 and I still forget to brush my teeth twice a day. Gross.

So how do I do better? I need to make time for myself and care for my skin, nails and hair. Maybe you can relate? Because at the end of the day I know I feel good about myself when I do all these things. As an extension to my new year's resolutions 'I won't be mean to myself', is to care for myself and my body. I am, however, human and I'm not perfect and never will be... but I'd like to feel good about myself and that's cool.

Do you struggle with self-care? Let me know in the comments below!

Sunday, 22 January 2017

Realities of the Underground

Edgware 2 mins. The black boxed sign shines above as you slow down from running miles to make sure you don't miss this exact tube even though there is another one exactly one minute behind. You walk to the part of the platform you do every single day and stand in the place where you bet yourself 20 quid the door will stop, and you'll gracefully waltz into the tube and take a seat. But that was an ideal world...

The tube pulls in as your sweaty mess of a body trips into the platform to catch the train, knickers riding higher, never to be seen again. A huge group of people swarm the doors and you hop jog to the nearest one, patiently waiting to get on while an announcement can be heard all around - “Please let passengers off the train before boarding” just as three grumpy corporate workers and one savage woman in a full velour tracksuit elbow their way onto the train without giving two sh*ts about anyone else; as long as they get on. After being pushed back and forth multiple times, it's suddenly your turn. You take the step up and then it hits you. The smelly, sweaty heat suffocates your lungs and starts to stick to your skin seeping into every layer of clothing you wish you had removed prior to arriving. It consumes you. Stuck to the sides of about seven human beings, you take a deep breath knowing that if you were ever duct taped to a man's armpit in the Sahara desert, you'd survive it. Then, the hot flushes start and you can't even breathe or take your coat off and the beads of sweat are developing on your forehead so quickly that you just pray the armpits don't closely follow.

It's time to get a look at your surroundings and work out what you really just got yourself into. Deep down you know everyone is either going to have their backs to you or judging you with hollow eyes, so you rotate your neck the best you can to get the gist of it. The hair of the lady closely in front of you tickles your face so you quickly retreat into the position you're stuck in, just crossing your fingers that everyone gets off at the next stop to free up some space.

The first stop comes into sight and you eye up who you think is going to get off. A few stops later and a seat opens up. A SEAT. Only a few shuffles away it becomes a fight for survival as you catch the eye of the woman on the other side ploughing through the carriage. Time slows down and you begin to move, butt first, hoping that a gap appears so you can slide in on it before it's too late. The sharpness of your nails drifts through your head and it's one on one now. Just as you think you are going to come out the champion someone new comes into the equation and goes in for the win. Bastard.

The train's filled up even more at this point and it's nearly your stop. Military exit strategies begin to form in your mind and panic is rippling down the nape of your neck as you wonder if you'll ever manage to get out of this death trap. The train slows… The doors open… GET OUT OF MY F*CKING WAY you shout silently inside as in reality you're quietly mumbling ‘excuse me’ under your breath while sliding your body against a sandwich of people, slowly making your way to the door. All of a sudden it's as if you're being sucked back and you have to go against the force of this black hole behind you and then... You're off. Resting bitch face at the ready, prepared to elbow through the station.

Sunday, 15 January 2017

Tips For Badass Blonde Hair

Thinking of going blonde? DO IT! I was blonde for over a year, and although I've just gone au natural again, I thought I'd pass on my knowledge to the next new blonde. Girls gotta help each other out right?!

Getting your hair bleached is a big deal so think about it carefully. As well as stripping the colour from your hair, bleach also strips a lot of nutrients and proteins that keep your hair soft and healthy. So straw hair may be a literal reality...

1. Get it done professionally - I cannot stress this enough and I'll admit I was naive and went through some trouble before I gave in and let someone do it for me. Hairdressers know what they're doing and you'll avoid patchy hair, orange bands, tears and insecurities. LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES! A lot of salons now use an Olaplex treatment and although I've not had it, I've heard rave reviews.

2. Colour - If you're keen to maintain your bleach blonde hair as a fresh white blonde shade without the brassy yellow tones, then I recommend investing in some purple shampoo. It acts like a toner to neutralise the yellow in your hair but in a handy shampoo. My two favourites are PROVOKE Touch of Silver Brightening Shampoo and Bleach London's Silver ShampooPROVOKE is my first choice as it's a tame product, but does the job perfectly. I find it lifts the hair more consistently in terms of shade and leaves it looking salon done. Bleach London's is strong so don't leave this in too long unless you're going for a purple look! However, it's a brilliant product from a great company and gives a good result.

3. Hydration - Your hair is going to get really dry as bleach is pretty damaging. Deep treatment conditioners are fab and shampoo and conditioners that contain keratin proteins repair and replace what's been stripped out. For the first few months, it's important to try and rebuild your hair's strength.

4. Roots - Don't leave your roots too long if you've got dark hair as it's harder to lift the pigment and will leave you with a large band of orange hair for roots. It's recommended you get your roots done every 4-6 weeks, which is when the hair is about an inch. However, the darker the hair the sooner I'd recommend getting it done.

5. Cut those ends - Dead ends are a big no no. Your hair can't repair itself if half of it is dead so you gotta get those ends off. It keeps it healthy and actually makes it grow faster, so if you're putting off having your hair cut because you like the length, you'll actually benefit from cutting it in the long run.

If you have any questions leave them in the comments below or share any hair mishaps of your own!

Sunday, 8 January 2017

Booking a One Way Flight

The notion of quitting your job and flying to the other side of the world to go travelling where nobody knows you is fairly romantic in thought. You can go anywhere in the world, be whoever you want to be, and do whatever you want.

So that's what I did. I quit my customer service job, dropped my life in the UK and went to spend a year in Australia. But two months later, back to England I came. Truth is,  I didn't enjoy it as much as everyone else. I wasn't getting the excitement from freedom and spontaneity as everyone else. And quite frankly I was fed up of living out of a suitcase, wearing flipflops in the shower and sleeping in dorms.

The experience was needed. I needed to go so I knew it wasn't for me and now I'm not going to wish all my life 'what would have been?' I did some incredible things that some people can only dream of and for that, I am very thankful I had the opportunity to go. But for me, it wasn’t quite right and I ended up realising I’d fallen in love with the idea of travelling, not the actual travelling. I am part of the 10% of little human beings that don’t like travelling. Or leaving home ever for that matter.

One month in, I thought I'd made a huge mistake. I'd spent thousands, I was unemployed, going back to live with my parents (after not living at home properly for 4 years) and I'd put my relationship at risk. This is a very scary realisation when you're literally on the other side of the world. But I knew, if I wanted to I could be home in 24 hours, so that kept me sane for the most part. I also met some really lovely people who I hope to keep in touch with for a long time. And not so great people too...

If you're thinking of going, you have to. You have to experience different cultures and learn more about yourself. I wouldn't necessarily recommend Australia as, to be honest, it's a very weird place... But definitely travel around and you'll have memories to cherish. If you're not sure, go for a short amount of time and then you can always stay longer if you'd like, or go some place different.

At the end of the day, I am myself and I always will be. So many people told me that I'd regret coming home and I'm wasting an opportunity of a lifetime, and I can understand that, however, I haven't and I'm really happy with my decision.


Wednesday, 4 January 2017

Serious Idol Material

There are some truly incredible and talented people on the internet and are exceptional at what they do. These women inspire me to be the best I can be and I learn from them daily. I hope that I get to meet them all one day.

In no particular order, here is a list of my favourite bloggers and why:

Pages by Megan - If I could trade places with anyone for the day it would be Megan. She's my newest favourite lady and everything about her is colourful and confident. From one look at her blog or social media, you'll adore her straight away and understand why she's a favourite.

Superlatively Rude - I learn more from Laura than I do from some people I know in real life. Her unfaltering honesty is refreshing and I'm so proud that she gets to share her words even more with her second book release this coming April. She's funny, an uplifting read and will make you think differently. Serious idol.

What Oliva Did - I see Olivia as a role model. Despite her only being two years older than me, she inspires me to work hard to be where she is today. I'm in awe of her style and the relaxed feel of her blog posts. She's someone to have a cuppa with and chat mindlessly about anything.

Wonderful You - Megs is one of the first bloggers I came across last year and she's just flawless from head to toe. It makes me happy when she gets recognition because you can tell how hard she works and she deserves it all. She's ridiculously photogenic and incredibly genuine which translates throughout her blog.

Shot From The Street - Lizzie is just the coolest girl in Manchester and probably England too. She's a fashion blogger and a serious style inspiration to me, even though she just kills each outfit 10x times more than I ever will. I have serious wardrobe envy and would recommend her always.

NYC Bambi - I found Christie though her flawless Instagram feed and our mutual friend Hannah. She's an old soul living in New York and her blog oozes vintage dreams and cosy aesthetic goals. Her pictures are flawless and part of me just wishes I was her, like all the time.

Sunday, 1 January 2017

New Year's Resolutions for 2017


I'm not usually someone who writes new years resolutions but I thought I might give it a go this year. I'm excited for this year and what it may bring. I think a lot of us feel the same. I don't expect to stick to these every day because they're not rules, but some guidance can come in handy sometimes.

I Will:
  1. Learn how to take better photos.
  2. Make time to read more books.
  3. Finish writing my manuscript.

I Won't:
  1. Spend money unnecessarily like on giant inflatable unicorns.
  2. Be mean to myself as I'm all I've got for the rest of my life.
  3. Make rash decisions.
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